And So It Goes

Recently, I read a book called "Slaughter House Five." Some of you, may have already read this book, and for those who haven't, its a great book- go out and buy it today.

If you do plan to buy this book, you can still read my post, because I am not going to give away too much about the book, except for this one part: each time something that would be viewed as a difficult in the characters life happened the words "And So It Goes", would follow.

And So It Goes...

These words popped in my head numerous times yesterday, when I met up with two girlfriends of mine from Grad. School, as one of them described how the man, she was engaged to and making wedding plans with, decided to call off the wedding and tell her that he had feelings for someone else she knows..

And So It Goes..

What a gut wrenching night for her, me and are other friend. We drank plenty of red wine, and listen and consuled her as she describe the demise of her relationship with her ex-fiance'. The Questions that popped into her head were: "Can I love again?" "When Will I be ready?" "Can I trust someone if I am proposed to again?"

And So It Goes...

Each word she spoke, the sadness in her eyes, the weariness in her body of how she will go on, made me wonder how do these things happen? She dated this guy for three years before being proposed by him. They lived together for 2 years before he proposed. It doesn't seem logical, considering the slow course of action of their courtship, that this should have blown up in her face. I have wondered what he thought when he proposed. What he thought about as he described to her how he had feelings for someone else. The expression on his face, as he knew he was wrecking what was then his fiance' heart.

How could someone ask something so important to someone else, and then turn-around and break it off with her. Where was his heart? Where was his mind? Was he that selfish or stupid to think that what he did wasn't tearing my friend into pieces.

And So It Goes....

I have to first admit that I never really liked her fiance'. I often thought he believed he was better than those he surrounded, and had no problem making that obvious. I just never had a good vibe about him. Regardless, I was happy for her, this is what she wanted. I thought this is what he wanted also.

And So It Goes....

If there is a silver lining in all of this, its that she is young (mid 20's), beautiful, smart, and will recover from this someday. At least she isn't married to someone who doesn't love her, or has any kids with him.

Although, I still can't help but wonder what people think of when they break someone who they claim to love's heart? I know he souldn't do something that wouldn't make him happy; however, aren't you actually suppose to think about your actions before your perform them?

Meaning, when you propose to someone you dated and lived with for many years, shouldn't this decision be one that you already know is the right one, and not one you later say.. "Oops I made a mistake, while you are visiting photographers for your wedding?"

But I guess all we can do is wish, trust and have faith that the people we chose to interact with won't violate us the way my friend has been violated, and if they do for someone reason, we just have to remember to think and say...

And So It Goes.