Dating Classifications
In my most recent discussion involving Love and Romance with my friends, it has come to my attention that some of them do not know the different terms involved with "Dating".
I emphasize "Dating", because the word itself has its own meaning when it comes to defining the "Dating" World. If you are a dedicated reader to my blog, you may have recently read a blog of me talking about a Minister that I am "seeing" (again a completely different meaning when speaking about "Dating").
If you would like to see this blog, please refer to the blog titled: The Thornbirds-- The Gay Version.
My friends, after hearing me emphasize that I am NOT "Dating" this Minister, but admitted to be "Seeing" him, were very perplexed about what could be the difference between these two terms.
Below is some clarification for you and them, that may help you with your current and future dating endeavors. Since I am hoping my readers are not teenagers, I will skip over the ambiguous terms "Hooking Up", or "Be With"-- which is a fancy way for kissing, or doing everything but put the seal on the envelope sexually.
One Night Stand: Means what it says.. Its One Night.. Sometimes a HOT night, Sometimes NOT. In the end, you shared a.. well.. a moment.
Fun on the Side: Means that you have slept with this person more than once, and the possibility is open that you would do it again, but are not guaranteed that it will occur.
F**k Buddy: Means that you have slept with this person at least two times, and have made an agreement with them that you are open to doing it again, and most likely, it will happen many more times in the future. HOWEVER, there is no dinner, usually very little talking-- just sex- NO INTIMACY.
Seeing: Means that you have had sex at least twice. You have talked to this person about phsycial and emotional boundaries. You usually have a little insight into their life (family, friends and career, etc.). You have also discussed what you like or need in someone for a emotional connection. However, neither one of you has made a commitment to make the situation more that a primarily phsycial relationship--- but you both have started to consider what it would be like to have an emotional connection with one another.
Dating: Now, this word complicates everything. Dating means that you have kept your clothes on for most or part of the evening. It means that the two parties who were "Seeing" each other before, have decided to try and see if there is any potentinal for more. Dating often means that you are also DATING other people-- not exclusive at all. You tend to get together once a week, or perhaps twice a week, if you are in the later stages of the dating cycle. You still have an intimate relationship, but the phsycial and emotional elements to the relationship are out in the open, etc.
Relationship: Means that you are exclusively dating this person. This person is your's, and they are not to be with anyone else, under any circumstances. You've had a discussion about your emotional boundaries and feel that this person could potentially be the one, and will likely be with this person for months, years, or possibly a lifetime.
And So This Ends Our Lesson of the Day. This Blog has been brought to you by the Letters: D, A, T, I, N, G and the number 1.
I emphasize "Dating", because the word itself has its own meaning when it comes to defining the "Dating" World. If you are a dedicated reader to my blog, you may have recently read a blog of me talking about a Minister that I am "seeing" (again a completely different meaning when speaking about "Dating").
If you would like to see this blog, please refer to the blog titled: The Thornbirds-- The Gay Version.
My friends, after hearing me emphasize that I am NOT "Dating" this Minister, but admitted to be "Seeing" him, were very perplexed about what could be the difference between these two terms.
Below is some clarification for you and them, that may help you with your current and future dating endeavors. Since I am hoping my readers are not teenagers, I will skip over the ambiguous terms "Hooking Up", or "Be With"-- which is a fancy way for kissing, or doing everything but put the seal on the envelope sexually.
One Night Stand: Means what it says.. Its One Night.. Sometimes a HOT night, Sometimes NOT. In the end, you shared a.. well.. a moment.
Fun on the Side: Means that you have slept with this person more than once, and the possibility is open that you would do it again, but are not guaranteed that it will occur.
F**k Buddy: Means that you have slept with this person at least two times, and have made an agreement with them that you are open to doing it again, and most likely, it will happen many more times in the future. HOWEVER, there is no dinner, usually very little talking-- just sex- NO INTIMACY.
Seeing: Means that you have had sex at least twice. You have talked to this person about phsycial and emotional boundaries. You usually have a little insight into their life (family, friends and career, etc.). You have also discussed what you like or need in someone for a emotional connection. However, neither one of you has made a commitment to make the situation more that a primarily phsycial relationship--- but you both have started to consider what it would be like to have an emotional connection with one another.
Dating: Now, this word complicates everything. Dating means that you have kept your clothes on for most or part of the evening. It means that the two parties who were "Seeing" each other before, have decided to try and see if there is any potentinal for more. Dating often means that you are also DATING other people-- not exclusive at all. You tend to get together once a week, or perhaps twice a week, if you are in the later stages of the dating cycle. You still have an intimate relationship, but the phsycial and emotional elements to the relationship are out in the open, etc.
Relationship: Means that you are exclusively dating this person. This person is your's, and they are not to be with anyone else, under any circumstances. You've had a discussion about your emotional boundaries and feel that this person could potentially be the one, and will likely be with this person for months, years, or possibly a lifetime.
And So This Ends Our Lesson of the Day. This Blog has been brought to you by the Letters: D, A, T, I, N, G and the number 1.
posted by flawedperfection @ 1:54 PM
3 Comments:
At 3:20 PM,
Anonymous said…
Pursuant to our conversation today, I was pleased to see the terminology spelled out for those who were unclear. Not to mention, this was really fun to read. :)
At 2:57 AM,
Gigi said…
lol! I like these definitions...where did you get them?
At 8:43 AM,
Anonymous said…
Wow, I must be old. In my mind F**k Buddy is much like "seeing" someone; you have a sexual relationship but it is not a romantic one -- you do have a friendship outside of sex but it is not a deep one.
But in any case I hope you will continue to have fun... That's the goal, isn't it?
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